Dreadful Manner

Personally I no longer look forward to watching movies with my friends but it is only because I can’t seem to control my emotion during tears jerking scenes. We will all leave the cinema and they will grab tissues for me. (T^T) *sobs sobs*

Recently I went on a wild hunt for the latest movie to watch and there has been a big hype on Avatar. Everyone said I will definitely cry so I decided to watch the movie alone (pity me right? you have seen those people who sat all alone at the cinema thinking to yourself that they are alone because they are “friendless” then you are wrong, now I understand that people choose to watch movie alone because THEY HATE BEING TEASE IF THEY CRY).

Back to the movie Avatar, my review only focuses on the relationship part as my current position would only allow one short piece of my mind to be type out.
A very short synopsis for Avatar,

As much as I enjoyed Avatar, the whole storyline of romance touched me yet there were many loopholes of relationship displayed. From the very beginning, Neytiri was intrigued by Jake. She said she saved him because he had no fear. But then Jake attracted tree-seeds and Neytiri was more and more fascinated to Jake since the tree-seeds were "pure spirits" drawn to him.

Later on, I got thinking about relationships. You and I can sit here and read about the definition of relationships though how many of us truly understand the real meaning of it. You may ask yourself “how much are you willing to sacrifice for your spouse and to which extent is giving up too much?”. There are those who bear equal parts in their relationship but why do I always find myself giving more or is it because I hoped too much?

Being an adolescent, I am stuck in a world where young people are supposed to enjoy their life with meaningless purchase of materialistic items and not drown in my own thoughts. Even in terms of blogging teenagers love to show off their purchase items, friends or even accomplishment but I choose to blog about “my boring old thoughts”

To keep myself sane, I involve myself with many activities that filled up my days in order to push my mind from thinking too much. As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a person will find true love (yes as clichés as it sounds, I still believed in true love) but I just need an answer to this question have I found my Jake?

I decided to discuss about my holiday plans over a lunch gathering with my friends.

I was on my way (half minded while thinking about the awesome Starbucks Mocha Frappucino) suddenly I got a call. Then the following hour I was filled up with love stories and NOT MY MOCHA FRAP. @#$% I don’t want to sound like a party pooper but what happened to the decent gathering over coffee?

I was informed by my friend that our get-together was canceled because everyone was casually available on msn to chat online. Am I the only person who still likes to step out for ice blended drinks? Our msn chat was havoc/mayhem/A TOTAL MESS. There were around 6 people with a lot of spamming abilities. We discussed about the holiday plan then we abandoned the whole topic and we moved on to other stuffs.

[My friend agreed to share this story.
The names have been changed to protect my friends.]

*ring, ring, ring, ring*
That was my lame ringtone ringing in the middle of the night.
(These few weeks I have been lacking sleep due to driving tests, preparation for college intake and planning for that special Hong Kong family vacation.)

I answered the phone and a voice on the other end said “Candice, I think it’s over” then she started to cry. I was half asleep but I felt that sorrow in her heart. Ann is one of my good friend who has been having relationship problems with her boyfriend. While my friend was crying at 3am in the morning, I have to pull myself together in order to support her.


This is what I remembered about last night phone conversation:

SIMPLE 3 STEP SOLUTION:

#Step 1: Talking Helps But Not Yelling.

It’s good exercise for you and your boyfriend to at least talk about it. The fact that you both agreed to take a break means that you are feeling confident about your relationship. Breaks signal change/admitting that there are problems that you need to fix.

#Step 2: Know The Terms and Conditions.

This is like a business deal, you need to clarify the “rules”. Example: Are we still friends? How long until we can go back to normal? Will you still contact/msn/sms/call me?

#Step3: Wait and Wait and Wait.

Give him and yourself time. Maybe he just needs to be with his friends or even alone. Don’t spend your free time worrying about “what ifs”. Also take this time to re-evaluate your relationship.

*as cliché as it may sound-follow your heart!*

Good luck to everyone.

If you want to find someone to talk, feel free to contact me o(^^)o